Author: http://www.AskDoctorMax.com
It’s sad to say that in this day and age chances are very high that either someone you know and love - or maybe even you- are in or have been in a very dangerous relationship. There are many alternatives of abusive relationships and it’s essential to remember that both mental and physical abuse can be dangerous to you and the scars take a while to heal.
The problem with abuse is that most relationships don’t start out in an abusive nature. Often there are subtle changes along the way, silent reprogramming until the abuser feels confident that they can control the relationship.
Often, when the abuse becomes recognizable, the victim has been so brainwashed that she or he (men can also be victims of abusive relationships) doesn’t consider the actions as abuse and actually takes the blame for his or her situation.
Victims often can’t be convinced that they’re having abuse. They’re so busy justifying the actions of the abuser that they don’t see it for what it is. In many situations the simple answer is that it’s hard to recognize you’ve accepted this to happen. But if you recognize some of the following situations in your own relationship, it’s quite possible that you are in fact, a victim of abuse.
Have you been cut off to some degree from friends or family? Does your partner seek to drive a wedge between you and other people you love? Does he make you choose between him and others that love you?
These are all signs of the beginning of abuse. An abuser knows that his power over you must be complete in order to have the true complete power he seeks. Friends and family members are competition and potential witnesses.
Does your partner control the money? You should be equal partners when it comes to money issues. If your partner holds all of the power financially then he has power over your ability to stay, leave, spend money, and make decisions.
Does your partner hit you, strike at you in anger, call you names, put you down, or make you feel inferior? These are all proof of abuse at the hands of your partner. Some insults are more subtle than others - as are some of the physical mistreatment against you. Early signs would be your partner playing too rough and then acting misunderstood or agitated when you state that you’ve had enough.
This is by no means every sign or indication that there are for mental or physical abuse in relationships. Chances are that if you feel you’re being abused - you are! You can always seek help and guidance at a local women’s shelter or domestic violence center if you suspect you’re being abused and would like help.
And if you are a man and are being abused by the woman in your life, let's repeat, the same goes for you! We only paid attention on women because statistically it seems to be more women who are abused than men, physically anyway. Get help and support, and by all means don't let yourself be abused any longer. ----------
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